I took some time out for my own mental health recently, and I wanted to reflect on why self-respect is such a big reason as to why I decided to take a step back from the blogging world and take some well deserved me time. My motivation has been practically non-existent and it’s been very hard to sit down and actually write anything meaningful lately. So I hope by discussing ways I practice self-respect, this will inspire all of us to be kinder to ourselves and look after ourselves when we feel less than good about life.
Self-respect isn’t about dressing modestly or being polite even when people are utterly horrid towards you. It’s got a much deeper meaning to it. Having self-respect is knowing that your mind and body can’t take anymore social interaction, so you take a step back from the hustle and bustle of your social life. Having self-respect is making yourself happy. One of my favourite quotes in regards to self-respect is being able to “respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy” – Robert Tew. In short, love yourself for who you are. Love everything about yourself and be unapologetic.
If you need time to yourself because you know you’re close to breaking point, take that much needed me time. If you feel yourself and your worries being pushed aside by anyone else and their problems, put yourself first because you deserve it. That’s really what self-respect is all about. It’s not being selfish if you need to put yourself first. It’s something we often forget to do, so to practice it more would benefit everyone’s wellbeing.
Lately, I’ve been feeling as if my mind can’t take anymore information. I feel like I’m stuck in this cloudy limbo that doesn’t lead to anywhere, I feel as though I’ve lost my purpose in life and can’t figure out what exactly I’m going to do for the rest of my life. My head feels foggy and I know for a fact that I’m unable to socialise properly like a 21-year-old gal should. But after many years of facing similar feelings and thoughts, I’ve come to realise I respect myself enough to know it’s time for me to take a step back and regain my grip on reality.
I respect myself enough to know that I shouldn’t ever compare myself to others. Some heal quicker than others, some take time to regain themselves after any type of setback be it big or small, and that’s perfectly fine. Everyone is different and unique in their own way, one recovery will be completely different from another. I respect myself to know that I can take as much time as I need in order to get myself back on track, and I’m the only one who gets to decide what this means and when it happens. At the moment, I’m working in a theatre in Cardiff as a box office assistant and a receptionist. It’s nothing like Lush, it’s not fast paced, Saturdays are the quietest days of the week and the work is fairly easy. I’m just taking my time to figure out what my next step is. My job and my colleagues are helping me recover from the huge setback with the BBC, they’re giving me that time to regain myself. My point here is, I know that other people might not have needed to take this job up because they’d probably have a Plan B already in place. Which is perfectly fine. But with the self-respect I have, I know I should never compare myself to others because they are not me. Maybe this is what I need at the moment to keep my head above the waves.
For many years suffering with depression, anxiety and bipolar it’s been a difficult ride. If anything all this hassle with my mental health has taught me, is that being kind to myself is a key part in having self-respect. When thinking or talking to myself, I always find myself being harsh and critical. I’d never speak to anyone else like this, so why should I talk to myself like that? Being kinder to yourself really helps to improve your state of mind.
I hope this post gives you guys some food for thought when you’re considering self-respect and how it has an impact on your mental wellbeing and overall quality of life. Self-respect is self defined. Don’t let anyone else tell you what it is, because only you know what you can respect about yourself. Until next time, Lost Kids, have an awfully big adventure for me.