Hello and welcome! Today I decided to do something a little bit different for you guys. This is the reason I’ve not been able to upload much over the last few weeks – I’ve been putting all of this together for you lovely lot. That and I’ve been really sick (again…. I am so sick of being sick!). Granted it might not be perfect, and it might not be for everyone, but it’s something that everyone can use as a foundation / starting point for their self-care plans.
A few of my buddies have been really down this month, but they’ve not been looking after themselves and doing the whole ‘Self-Care’ thing. Which sucks. So, me being me, I thought I’d put together a little guide for self-care. Again, I just want to mention that this may not be perfect and it might not be the guide everyone could/should use. But it’s something you guys can take and adapt to your own needs. I’ll attach a PDF of the guide at the bottom of this post, so you’re more than welcome to download it/ print it off/ do what you need with it.
How do I start putting myself first?
This is something that we should consider more often than we do. I’ve noticed a lot of my friends and family will put the needs of others before their own. Very recently, a close friend had to make a hard decision about removing a loved one from their social media, due to the fact they wouldn’t respect my friend’s opinion, stance on life and just belittled their ability to have knowledge on subjects other than what the mainstream media provides.
If you’re anything like my friend, making that type of decision to put your mental wellbeing before pleasing others or staying quiet about how uncomfortable something they do makes you feel, will undoubtably make you feel selfish. But let’s get one thing straight here. YOU. ARE. NOT. SELFISH. FOR. PUTTING. YOURSELF. FIRST. You have to do what’s best for you. And if that’s cutting ties with someone, family or friend, then that’s what has to be done.
Remember to celebrate the smallest of victories! This is such a huge deal! Even if it’s just the fact you got out of bed, brushed your teeth and made it downstairs for an hour – you did it! You challenged yourself, and you proved that you are a boss-ass-bitch (and if you’re a guy reading this, you too are a boss-ass-bitch for doing it too!).
Never beat yourself up for something. I know it’s been said a thousand times, but what’s done is done. If you made a mistake, don’t beat yourself up over it. Learn from it and ensure your future self is ready to face any challenge life throws at you. If you didn’t manage to meet a deadline, it happens. Just drop whoever you were working on a project for an email, explain the situation and just be honest. Chances are they will appreciate your honesty and extend your deadline.
Eat healthily. When you’ve had a decent meal that is full of all the good things you need to keep your mind and body strong – you’ll be unstoppable! You still may feel like crap, but your belly will be full, your head might be clearer, and you’ll have some energy to get you through.
Keep a journal! It will come as no surprise that I have a journal … and I hardly ever remember to write in it. But when I do write, I feel better. I’ve put my thoughts to paper and in a way, they’re no longer able to burden me. Granted, I will still have sleepless nights and I will stress over things, but there’s something therapeutic about ridding your mind of thought-clutter. You can track your mood, your habits, your feelings, and just small details of your life that you think your future self will love to read about and remember.
Don’t forget about what makes you happy. Take some time out of your busy working life to do 10 minutes of yoga a day. If you love reading, crack open a book and aim to read a chapter before bed. Love animals? Go out of your way to pet that dog or makes friends with that cat you see on your daily walk to work. Putting yourself first doesn’t always have to be practical. If you know you’ve got a meeting at 10am and you’re already running a bit late, you may as well go make a new animal friend for 2 seconds before you enter an hour or so of stress.
Do what you know is best for, well, you. If you know your body will break if you go to the gym at 6am before work and again at 7pm after work, take a step back and see how you can change your routine to fit you. Don’t ever push yourself or else you will ultimately make yourself sick, and that’s definitely not something we want.
So those are just some of the things you can do to put yourself first and practice self-care! Please feel free to share the guide with friends, family or your pets! (If you do share with your pets, I will need photo evidence of your fur babies reading…. for scientific reasons….) You can download / print off the guide from the link below too.
That brings us to the end of this week’s post! Because I’ve already missed a few days of February, I’m a bit late in announcing that this month’s theme will be…. *drum roll please* For The Love Of Literature! That’s right! All things literature will be posted throughout the rest of this month! Are you excited? Because I’m excited!!
Anyway, have you guys got any self-care tips you’d include in your very own ultimate self-care guide? Let me know in the comments below! And, until next time – have an awfully big adventure for me.